Nonjudgmental Attitude Part 2

Sunday January 24, 2010 By Kevin A. Morrow

I can see myself playing in that arena. All NBA arenas in actually.

I no longer believe in bad luck. To me it doesn’t exist. It’s a point of view, also known as a reaction to an event. What’s the point in telling myself I have bad luck if I miss a couple shots. It’s the judgment that creates the avenues for the counter productive thoughts. It’s not like I’m a competition against luck, or with the fact that I make or miss a shot. The competition only exists in my mind.

When I say I don’t believe in luck, I mean that I don’t put a lot of value into it. When I perceive good fortune now, I don’t second guess it anymore. I accept it for what it is, and I’m gracious for it. It’s the same thing if I perceive some bad luck, I don’t put too much value into it. It just is. Since I don’t even know what luck is anymore, I say I don’t believe in it. Luck is just reactions to situations from perspectives.

Example: I make a buzzer beater that I’ve practiced day after day, and an unaware spectator says I’m lucky.

Am I really?

It’s good to believe in good luck as long as you don’t get rattled when it seems to end.

Another thing I’ve learned is to have a nonjudgmental attitude towards fans or hecklers. In fact, this applies to anything that might seemingly throw you off of your game. If something throws you off of your game, it was either for a purpose, or it wasn’t. If someone is trying to distract you on purpose, what’s the point in being judgmental bout it? If something is distracting you on accident, what’s the purpose in letting it cause harm to your game? I can’t come up with anything.

How I react to these things determines my attitude towards the game, and to life. Reactions are like instant expectations that create themselves into our reality. Distraction no longer have a hold on me.

The more I think about basketball the more I think about how some teams and players struggle. People refer to it as slumps. It happens in many sports. This is how I see it now. The real game of basketball has no slumps. The slumps are in the mind of the people. Basketball and life is  a mind game. Slumps don’t exist to me.

A slump is like you’re playing below your expectations or abilities and there’s no reason. The reason is mentality, which is unique to the person. In the game of basketball mentalities are constantly changing.

You may have a mental hinderance, a physical hinderance, or an ego hinderance. There could be more but these are what I’m listing. So a slump is there for a reason. The slump is in the mind, it’s a mentality. It can weed its way through the minds of entire teams.

I think attitude and reaction is ever-present in the realm of injuries. The same thing relates to being in shape, also known as conditioning.

Micheal Jordan’s Famous Flu Game

Apparently you don’t have to be your best physically to play your best at that moment. All you have to do is be in the moment and want it. The will to do something can overcome many perceived obstacles.

Injuries can be tough on the mentality. The element that remains is how you react to the injuries. Injuries cause fear, pain, and disappointment. All of them can lead to frustration. But here’s the thing, if it happened to you, it happened to you. What can you do in that moment other than recover.

It’s a common theme to hear players blame injuries for how they performed. I’ve done this myself. A lot of times I think I’ve actually created an injury in my mind that wasn’t really there. Why? Because of anxiety and how my mind was reacting to situations.

Now let’s talk about being nonjudgmental towards fear. Apparently people experience fear (go figure ). Fear seems to come from things out side of you. Fear causes your body to do based on expectancy of something harmful. In basketball it can cause a kind of passive paralysis.

If you can’t ignore fear, the next best thing is be aware of how you react to it. Fear experienced as productive or unproductive, which way would you choose to react?

Thank you for reading.

Nonjudgmental Attitude Part 1

Sunday January 24, 2010 By Kevin A. Morrow

I feel like talking about having a nonjudgmental attitude now. I’ve realized recently that my expectations are crucial to how I perform. I’m mainly talking about basketball, but this can apply for life and anything else as well.

The example I want to use is a situation in which one team has a huge lead over their opponent. When a team is ahead they might start thinking everything is great until the other team starts making a solid comeback. When a team scores consecutive points without the opposing team scoring, it’s referred to as a  scoring run or simply a “run.” The momentum switches to the other team, and they team with the lead may become subject to some negative thinking.

The negative thinking is an expectation that they can no longer keep the lead. It’s an instant manifestation of expectation of the minds of the team. It’s tougher when you’re playing with something to lose, because you have something to lose. When you’re an underdog, or losing the game, you have nothing to lose. It all depends on what place you make judgments of what’s possible from.

It’s easier for most peoples minds to try to win while coming from behind, then it is to lose a game you’ve had in the bag. It’s important to live in the moment you’re currently in. If your playing ball and thinking about other things, there’s room for your mind to drift. It can change your current expectations while in the game.

I feel like there should be a balance between feeling like you can make every shot, and being nonjudgmental when you miss or make a mistake. If you react negatively to something not happening as you expected it to, you’re putting yourself in a tough situation. Your mind might begin to plant negative expectation seeds into your mind, and then into your game.

All pressure that you or I meet is self-created. I’ve learned to take it all in as I play without thinking. If I make a mistake then it’s let go and I focus on the moment at hand. I do what I can do in the moment I’m living/playing.

Honestly it doesn’t matter where I play, staples center or in front of thousands of fans, or alone at the park down the street. The only thing that matters is how I perceive the situation. It doesn’t matter who I play, where I play, or the stage of the game, it only matters how I react to it. Environment no longer bothers me because I don’t care. I have nothing to lose, and I give my best efforts in the moment.

Physical ailments are also subject to reaction. The pain threshold is up to reaction as well. It’s all subject to the mind. Being nervous and tense is all from the mind, it’s not from the external sources. I feel like being nonjudgmental creates  poise. Poise allows you to be at your best.

Anybody that knows me from my past will know me as a very emotional person. Frustration and stress are gateways to negative thinking in life and in basketball. If you expect one thing and something happens otherwise, a judgmental attitude can cause you harm. Frustration comes when you expect to make a shot and then you miss. But what’s supposed to happen after that? If you allow that shot to stay in your mind your harming yourself for the rest of the game, unless of course you change your reaction to it.

For me this had been all about self-esteem. You can see this in basketball, people get down on themselves because of mistakes. But everybody makes mistakes so what’s the big deal? Emotions had been the thing holding me back. Nobody has kept me from playing in the NBA or from playing basketball anywhere else professionally. It was my emotions, and my reactions to them. This no longer applies.

It only takes one small seed of doubt to create a field of negative bound tumbleweed thoughts to grow.

Please Read “Nonjudgmental Attitude Part 2.”

Observations Of The Blinking Cursor

Saturday January 23, 2010 By Kevin A. Morrow

I’m sitting here watching the little bar blinking on the page as I type. This is talking…talking…talking and more talking. What am I feeling now, at this moment? That’s what’s important to me. I’m feeling content and ready to live life to the fullest. Basketball is like life playing itself out on the court. The successful players do whatever it takes to win, morally of course. The same thing applies with life.

In basketball, whining gets you nowhere. It doesn’t get you very far in life either. Talking with no action won’t get you very far at all. Same with basketball, talking a good game won’t mean anything unless you do what you say on the court.

I’ve at times been fighting my thinking mind, and I’ve gone against the grain of the universe. In other words I have tried to rationalize everything. It’s the actions and the expectations that make up reality.

The universe is here for me and here for you. Neither one of us will win a battle with universal law. Just like screaming and yelling at the referee usually serves no purpose. There’s a flow to the game, and positive expectation combines with effort to create a result. It’s like baking a pie, ingredients either make it great to eat, or inedible. Just like the result of the pie is due to the reaction of the ingredients, the reactions to the game get controlled by observer.

Blaming other people in life, and on the basketball court, never solves anything. It’s simply an unproductive action. Blame is like a weed seed that gets deeply rooted into the mind. This seed will grow unattended and unnoticed,  deeply rooting itself in the thinking mind. There’s something within us all that knows it’s there, but the conscious mind tends to ignore it. Sometimes only when it’s huge and causing visible interference do we try to remove it.

Success in basketball has a lot do with preparation. The same thing is true about life. In life a person should prepare themselves to have productive reactions. Success in any form you see it will be within you. All you have to do is prepare yourself to experience it.

Have your own expectations. I expect to experience interesting events and people today. I expect I’ll be apart of  productive environments and great teams from now on. This includes productive environments of my mind and your mind. I choose to see productivity in everything I experience. I choose to live by the best of my character. I choose to control my reactions and not take things personal.

I’m building productive relationships with people now. I do what I can, when I can, and with my best efforts in the moment. Today is my birthday and I’ll have a great time at Disneyland because I choose to.

Photographer: Simon Howden

Everyone Have a Great Day!

Self-defeat makes you weak

Friday January 22, 2010 Kevin A. Morrow

Photographer: Christian Southworth

It’s been interesting the type of rain we’ve got where I live. What I just said has nothing to do with this post, but I thought I’d let you know . I’ve learned a tremendous amount about the art of attack. I simply don’t waste time on drama anymore. It’s like my mind creates it to test my patience. Not only does my mind do it, but other peoples minds do it as well. I know it’s really annoying trying to talk to me when drama is on your mind. I know that each of us chooses to see what we choose to see, and I just don’t want any parts of that anymore. It seems like a waste of time to me. I rather spend my time helping someone, learning, helping myself, or having fun. You know, something worthwhile and productive.

However, the drama might also be productive, it provides opportunities to practice what I believe. I will not neglect my share of this world. Meaning there is abundance everywhere, and I do not deny its existence. This includes the “Almighty Dollar,” or whatever else that might be considered wealth. In order for me to do this in a way that’s comfortable for me, I must react to drama in the correct manner.

That’s the secret of all secrets, better known as how you react to situations. Whenever someone feels the need to attack another person, it’s because deep down inside they’re trying to feel better about themselves. This is also known as hater-ism (a hater, haterade, hateration, hate, – jealousy or distain of another persons percieved success.) in the hip hop culture. That’s the only purpose of attacking another person. I’ve done it, I’ve seen family do it, I’ve witnessed girlfriends do it, I’ve witnessed all kinds of people doing it. Sometimes people secretly envy you because they want to do things the way that you do them. Other times it’s because you threaten how they see the world as reality.

Photographer: Francesco Marino

I’ve realized a while ago that it was time to make non-judgmental posts, and step into the world with my goals and realizations. I want to help people. Meaning I want my work to help people and help the world be a better place. At this moment, I’ll do it one blog, conversation, and basketball game at a time. I call it realistic optimism. You may call it something else, and we’ll both be just as correct.

Sometimes knowledge is misunderstood, and too much of it will have you living apart from the world. Now I’ve got this notion that I should be completely honest with myself and others, go figure that. Just be honest, that way you’re being the real you. There’s no need to pretend you’re something that you’re not. Well, unless of course you are living through the expectations of other people. Maybe you should try living through your own expectations. Just a suggestion, it’s not an order, I’m not a drill instructor.

CHANGE OF ENVIRONMENT

This is crucial to me. I’ve felt the need to strongly change my social environment. It may seem that I’ve isolated myself, but the truth is I’ve decided to not put energy into environments that are not productive to me. If I have to appear selfish to those who don’t understand that, so be it. I like supportive people and environments around me, I will not apologize for being selfish in that way. Who would I be apologizing to? Those who don’t support what I see as possible? Yeah, that sounds SUPER SMART. (SUPER SMART – a term used as in to refer to me as what someone knew I was. Super sarcastically of course.) I am a gangster when it comes to situations like that. Meaning I’m going to do what I want to do. I’ve dropped the connections that aren’t supportive to me, and I welcome all the many new ones that are. The only way you would know this, is when you feel it. You can call it intuition or gut. People are attractive and unattractive to you through the way that you think. Think about that. Your friends reflect what you believe. If you want to believe something else, try finding new friends. But first you must set your inner environment of self, to see what you want to see.

Some people around me will hate what I have to say next, and they will even say that I do this as well. This is also criticism, but it’s understood. It actually helps me because I see it for what it is. Which is why I now say that whining, complaining, arguing, drama, name calling, belittling, false expectations, pity parties, woe is me conversations, my life sucks texts, these are all unproductive, and I’m dropping them from my social environment. If this hurts your feelings, and you can’t understand why I’m doing this, than no wonder your being dropped from my social environment.

I wouldn’t want someone to include me in their social environment if I was hurling the energy listed above at them. This isn’t something personal. If it were personal it would be an attack on the character of other people. There’s no need for me to do something like that. I’m not attacking character, this is about energy. This is about internal and external energy that is percieved in reality. This is about what’s experienced as reality.  This is about being the person I know I am. This is about being the billionaire that I visioned at the beginning of this blog. No matter how improbable it seems, the billionaire doesn’t just have to mean money however. This is about exercising the best of my character, and the best of my character enforces strength. But just writing about it doesn’t do much. One has to DO it, then what the blog is understood on a broader level.

Photographer: Michal Marcol

This is going to sound even colder if you are taking what I’m saying personal. But understand that this leads into what I’m about to say next. If I’m communicating my feelings and my ideas to you and you consistently tear them down, what’s the use? What’s the point? Maybe that’s constructive criticism, but in most cases it’s not. It’s about feeling better about yourself. If someone has a good idea why would you criticize it? Think about it. Because you would have to feel better about yourself for not coming up with it. That is of course you are not expressing the best of your character. Let me reiterate that this isn’t targeted toward a single person. This is just the best way I can convey what I’m saying in this blog at this moment.

I’m over that. It’s that simple. The space that all that unproductive stuff leaves gets filled with productive things, people, and environments. Which means I see these things now. I choose to see them now. They are within me, I don’t even have to go anywhere, but I can at the same time. Self-defeat makes you weak, if you drain forget my name. We can still be friends, but we won’t have decent conversations until some things are understood by both of us. I could be aware enough to not be drained, but the person will eventually need to become aware enough not to drain. See the correlation here?

I’m by no means exalting myself or putting myself above others. If you see it that way then maybe you should understand your own motivations. Would you hang out with someone who was a constant thief? If you weren’t a thief, would choosing a different social environment be exalting yourself? Think about it. This isn’t personal to anyone, this is about living life.

In that statement awaits the trap. The moment I begin to criticize, I begin to harm all parties involved. Instead I should strengthen myself, and find out what it is I don’t like about myself that’s causing me to criticize. This is a wise suggestion for all those who read this. Fake-ness, whining, pity party, all of that is self-defeat. No matter how you want to rationalize it. It only becomes productive when you SEE IT. Struggle makes people stronger when they SEE IT for what it is. It defeats them when they believe it isn’t a motivator.

This is about being yourself, and not bringing down other people. Self-defeat is also defeating other people. Why? Because you do to others what you do to yourself.

Golden rule, do to others what you would want done to you. So if I was draining you I would want you to explain it to me, similar to this blog, so that I could understand. The only way I know to help people get a better understanding of themselves, is to get a better understanding of myself.

What do I SEE?

Photographer: federico stevanin

I see what I choose to see. I choose to see a lot of things as possible. I know how to make those things possible. Productive environment is one of the avenues to “What I see street.” Like the famous quote that says “If you want to see change in the world, be the change in the world.” Everything you experience starts with what you SEE. I’m not just speaking about physical sight, I’m also talking about awareness and character.

I felt the need to express my truth 100%, and this is it.

I am adding to the defeat of other people if I don’t express the best of my character. A man with no money can still have strong character. The courage in being yourself shows people that they can find courage in being themselves as well.

I could write more, but there are somethings I need to do.

Have a great day!

Here’s a little update

Tuesday January 19, 2010 By Kevin A. Morrow

Check out my cousins video, she is doing what she loves, and taking action to do it. There is no limit to where she can go with her talent, and I know she will continue to grow as an artist as she gives her best efforts.

She’s 14 years old.

Here’s a little update on what’s going on with me. I’ve worked hard at various elements of my basketball game, which means I’ve spent a lot of time away from my blog. I’m also in the process of creating a resume. Every time I fill something in on the resumé, I keep saying to myself “I should create my job.”

I like to think big!

Some people call me a realistic optimist, but I don’t really look too much into “titles.” I’m actually writing the resumé as I write and you read this. I’ve been asked why should the employer use me over other applicants. I keep thinking to myself, “Why haven’t I employed myself?”

I’m not talking about books, or poem books, these are small beans compared to my abilities. I’ve had a lot of fun lately, and I’m grateful for it all. My birthday is coming up soon and I will begin a new 21 Day Gratitude exercise on the 23rd, 4 days from now.

Thing is, while I write this resumé, I keep thinking to myself one fundamental thing. “I can continue to do things the way that they have been done, or I can challenge myself to change the game.” What’s the game? Maybe it’s a metaphor for my life. I love the way that sounds.

I know that everything is here already, it’s right in front of my nose. It’s even closer than that. It’s within my mind, it’s here, it’s there, it’s everywhere. Opportunities are all around me and within me. So what do I want to see? What I want to see, I have, because I will see it there. It will show itself because I’m looking for it.

Back to the opportunities…

I feel many opportunities within me now. I know that I can carry them out as I sit here writing this blog. The more I work on my basketball game, the more I realize that the talent is already there. What I’m noticing is that the focused effort, refines the ability that’s already there. This example reveals how the mind works. “Use it or lose it.”

Wealth and abundance are within us all, if we don’t use it we lose it. There’s wealth within me that I can use and share with everyone I meet. Through this blog it’s  shared with people who I may never meet, but the energy will always be here. I feel like there’s a business that I can start today that will give streams for the exchange of wealth. Both monetarily and other aspects apply here.

A million or billion dollar baby is going to take some risk. It’s going to take the ability to “Change the game.” I don’t know exactly why, but I’m convinced that I can use myself through ideas and helping others. I keep thinking about “solving a problem.” Well I’m sure I can find those, I hear people talking about their problems everyday. There’s no shortage of problems, just like there’s no shortage of abundance. We have whatever our minds focus on.

In any case, whatever the idea is, it will take action. Action will change the words on the blog into reality.

What do you choose to see?

By Kevin A. Morrow

Photographer: dan

A common theme that we all share, is the foundation from which we make judgments of value. Meaning that what’s correct or incorrect, good or bad, worthy or unworthy, acceptable or unacceptable, fun or boring, and believe me this list can go on for a while. When making decisions, this list becomes the foundation of the values. If a person is too focused on I, they become closed off. I’m experiencing something like this in my reality now. There’s something I should let go of between myself and a family member that I perceive as unproductive. This happens a lot in relationships, the I creates pain, fear, frustration, confrontation, and delusions of value.

Meaning what I perceive as valuable and productive, isn’t conducive towards their perception. However both exist as equal realities. Of course it’s better to let go than to hold on to it. I have to do that own my own, I have to find the issue and see it for what it truly is, and move on. One key element to help me resolve this issue has come into awareness recently.

In any situation we must understand (correctly) the other people involved in the situation, before taking action and making decisions. Neither one of us truly understood each other, and based opinions off of false realities. Circumstance, time, place, people included, amount, and state of mind should all be understood. I tell myself not to let yesterday take up to much of today.

State of mind is an important foundation to build from. The person of clear mind, must overlook negative energy from an unclear mind. All of these things described, must be understood, or at least considered.

Some will say that they want love, well ask how much love is enough? Is the love already there? Is their focus on the love? Where does their guidance of the acceptable amount of love come from? Where does the conditioning of what love is, come from?

Before one can truly see themselves, there must be satisfactions with what they have already. What you and I have is both enough. If it wasn’t enough, we would not have it. Whether you want more is up to you, whether you can keep more is up to what you believe. That’s the responsibility that comes with it. To who much is given, much will be expected. When players are given more hype than they personally believe, they’re labeled failures or underachievers. Why? They were given much hype, and told to  to produce equal or more hype. But what did they personally believe, and isn’t life impermanent?

When you feel fear, pain, frustration, anger, and hate, remember to appreciate your life. Focus on the things cause you to feel grateful. Don’t give fear to other people. This is the challenge I’ve focused on with my family member. I haven’t been aware enough to handle the fear that they constantly place upon me. What I’ve learned is that their fear is ultimately my fear. When I learn how to handle my fear, I simultaneously learn to handle their fear.

When the I overruns the thoughts, tiny things become dramatic orchestrations of things not grateful for. Don’t give away your fear, see it for what it is. This is a lesson for us all.

Example: Someone eats your candy bar and all hell breaks loose because of your idea of permanence in an impermanent world. Instead of getting irate, find something you’re grateful for to focus on. Laugh it off like Kitty in “That 70’s Show.”

When grateful for what’s already yours, you will then want very little. When you want much, you’ll always want more. When do you have it all, if you don’t have it all already? If you don’t want anything, it must mean you have everything you want or need.

But what’s everything to have?

I want $1,000,000 because I seem to not have it, but when I have $1,000,000 am I grateful for it, and do I want more? 1 penny and $1,000,000 are as equal as they are different. Am I grateful for my penny?

What determines  wealth when all peoples differences of wealth are equally different. What’s absolute, and what’s relative?

Absolute and relative are just thoughts. When I’m frustrated, I talk about frustration. It may seem absolute at the moment, but it’s actually relative to something else. Frustration is an idea, that’s not absolute, and isn’t permanent.

It’s common for people to complain about things that other people do or say. But who are the other people? Aren’t they equally different, and in result the same? Why are you deceiving yourself? People don’t live outside of who you are.

What you see, you choose to see.

Differences Are Equal

Thursday January 14, 2010 By Kevin A. Morrow

Photographer: Suat Eman

The common concept of time does not stop. It’s on going, and yet it only occurs as I type, and we both read this post. No matter what differences seem to be, there exists unity. Right and wrong, equality and non-equality, male and female, tall and short, young and old, are all different and yet united.

Position is relative, not separate from nature and character. Regardless of our differences, we are all in some ways the same. People have the same value no matter what their monetary measure. Practice makes perfect but does perfect need practice? Life is like practice, but practice for what?

Perhaps to practice for your character? This in itself is a perception. Choosing to live by the best of your character is a perception. What’s the best of your character, and are you experiencing it already?

One could entertain the idea that the body and mind are empty upon birth. The body and mind could be conditioned how to  have and do certain things. But what would be the point? Ask yourself is there a separation between you and the things conditioned?

When I think for myself, I’m actually thinking for all selves. Regardless of what I think, it’s only thinking. My right action is not the result of my thoughts/ideas of self. “MY” is a division that a mind has focused on. Right action comes from the character and nature within all people.

What’s the best way to live? Selfishly, unselfishly, a mixture of both?

Or are the above just thoughts and perceptions?

Life as it seems, is impermanent. Everything constantly changes. There’s duality among us. I can say I am this and I am that. In the same change of pace, I can change to something else. Realizing that, one could reason that my life might be shaped from impermanent truths. What’s true today shapes what’s true tomorrow. I cannot add anything to myself that I don’t already have. I can’t accept something into my consciousness, that isn’t possible and that isn’t already there.

What’s skill and repetition?

Could it be memory?

What’s memory?

Could you agree that these could be abilities, you already possess, to cultivate/remember, and then reproduce?

It could seem that you remembered faith that was within you. You remembered faith, it never left to go anywhere. You and I are not as separate as we seem. As I see you remember that you have faith, I remember that I have faith. Our faith might be different, but in a way they are the same.

The moment I become self-centered, is the moment I lose the connection. We are all self-centered to a point, but is that a perception?

Where there is great faith there’s no doubt. Faith could be an experience. Faith could be an experience that reminds you that you have faith. Faith requires you to let other people be as they are.

Differences actually are equalities to the open mind. differences are in a way all the same. Anything categorized as a difference,becomes the symbol of difference.  Male and female are different genders, but are equally genders. My life and your life are different in length, and other ways, but are both lives. Same thing can apply with food, jobs, and thoughts. Any difference that can ever be thought of, will in a way be the same.

I like apples and you don’t, each of our differences are complete differences. They each are complete thoughts and beliefs. They are ideas in their own right, and are equally free as ideas. Therefore they’re the same. Your place, status, body, and thoughts, are all equal to mine. The negative reaction to differences are just conditioning. Calling the body a body, is how I’ve been conditioned through the language I speak. Another language may say something else, but the different words describe the same thing.

Decisions – The Fabric of Reality

January 9, 2010 By Kevin A. Morrow

New, and not so new, element of my reality. Decision making, everyone knows about this topic. You and I make decisions everyday. Decisions should come from expectations of yourself and not others.

I’ve found that in my life, reality has tried to teach me how to make my own decisions. Of course there has been great resistance from my already planned mind. My mind creates the reality I see. My life is just a mirror of my beliefs. My place in life mirrors  what I chose to believe, and not what others have thought about me.

It has taken me a long time to realize this. I’ve read a lot of “self-help” books, and it was never the book that helped me. What helped me was the experiences that came with how I changed my way of thinking. What I think about, has honestly become what I am.

Decision making is something I have to do on my own. The same goes for you. If I don’t decide I will remain indecisive. I’m now excited for the opportunities to make decisions.

No longer does will the question “What should I do?” bug me anymore. Recently I’ve become annoyed by people asking me “What are you doing today?” My problem was not the question, it was that I wasn’t being decisive. By deciding not to choose, I decided not to set anything into motion.

It’s funny how something as simple as decision-making can compound into a low self-image. Think about it, people who make decisions tend to be the ones looked up to. They tend to have an unexplainable power about them. It’s a well-known fact that decisiveness is something most women are attracted to in men. Think about this.

I’ve realized that the key to all this is starting where you are at. Focus on the tiny details and you will create a bigger picture. Decision making is about knowing what you want. Knowing what you want comes from living the best in your character.

Failure is a feared as a part of decision-making. All it takes to overcome this, is a shift in thinking.

Give your best effort and hold true to the best of your character. This is my shift in thinking.

I use to believe, that the support required to do what I wanted was not available. I know this is false now, because whatever I choose to see becomes supported. Instead of being a victim to circumstances, I now create my own circumstances. My preparation will bring good luck, because the preparation aligns me with the things I want. Add that together with living the best of my character, and you have the ingredients for a delicious dish.

I’ve decided to be myself.

Honest Self-Analysis of Success

January 9, 2010 By Kevin A. Morrow

What does money mean to me?

Fortunately money doesn’t mean success for me. If it did, I wouldn’t be able to make an honest self-analysis. Money is just a medium of exchange to me. It holds no real worth, it’s just something that everybody accepts as having value. I think that giving someone kindness is more valuable than money. Money is a tool. Money is a tool to use to experience different things.

Money is not wealth in my opinion. Wealth is more than just property and things. Read Income Vs. Wealth. Wealth is truly the best of your character. My wealth is not my money, property, or things, it’s my best character. The money and things are just tools of the physical world. They are important, but not as important as the contents of my character.

Rich people are people who have tremendous character. Rich doesn’t only represent material wealth. A person could be a billionaire and have poor character. Poor character by its’ meaning alone, is not rich. Rich people are kind, giving, caring, loving, philanthropists, pleasant, and blessings to all of those around them. This includes the man with $2 in his pocket, and the woman with billion dollar wealth.

Successful people are those who live by their own expectations. They live the best of their character. They give their best efforts and prepare themselves for whatever comes their way. Successful people are mentally in tune with the true reality of life. Money does not make you a success, but it is a more than helpful tool as you give the world your best efforts.

Self-Analysis questions to ask your-self.

Why can’t I be extremely successful?

My answer: The only thing keeping me from being extremely successful is me. I had a cloudy view of what success was. Therefore, I was chasing something that I couldn’t receive. It’s like looking for water but expecting milk, it just doesn’t work. The only reason I can’t experience extreme success, is because of what I tell myself. Your best success is a result of your best in character.

What are the negative connotations (con’s) of striving for success?

My answer: Failure is the biggest until I realized there was no failure. Failure only exists when you don’t give your best effort. That’s when the lack of peace of mind becomes a negative result of striving for success. Half ass striving, is a negative result of attempting to be successful. With great success comes great responsibility. Feeling the fear of not being ready for responsibility, is a negative result of striving for success.

But none of these things are really true unless you let them be.

What’s your greatest fear of success?

My answer: Is that I will never be successful. That I will never give what it takes to experience what I want to experience. These things are no longer true. My success comes from knowing I gave all that I could to carry out my goal. That’s my true peace of mind.

What’s the worst that can come of success?

My answer: The worst that could happen is that I forget what true success is to me.

What’s the best that can come of success?

My answer: Financial abundance, and a sense of accomplishment, fulfillment, and a love for the journey that paved the way. Great experiences are among the best things that can come with success.

What is the difference in life now, and when the success is achieved?

My answer: I know that success is determined by my efforts and the use of the best of my character. This means that there really is no difference in my life. Other than having financial independence and the experiences had during the journey. It will put me in a more credible place to help more people. It will create a huge avenue for me to create value for countless people.

Who do I see myself as becoming when I succeed?

My answer: I’ll be the same person I am now.

Common Fears To Overcome

January 9, 2010 By Kevin A. Morrow

Since coming to new realizations and making new decisions, I’ve started to notice common fears that people let slow them down. The biggest one that I see is the FEAR OF FAILURE. My fear of failure was interesting because it depended on the idea of perfection. But what I saw as success could not be perfected. I was creating the reality that failure existed. Now failure is really just a learning experience. All I’m focused on doing now is the very best in whatever situations I’m in. Fear of failure is no longer something holding me back.

Subconsciously I was fearing success as well. I felt like there would be too much work, or I would have nothing left to strive for.  I even felt like going through school I was ready for failure and not success. That seemed as my common theme or philosophy. It was like we came at situations hoping not to fail. Hoping not to fail, is really expecting not to succeed.  Now that I know what success truly means, I no longer fear it. Fear of Success no longer holds me back.

Another common fear is the fear of the unknown. This may have been the biggest fear to overcome in my life. Today I still face that fear in the face and have to make productive decisions. For some reason the unknown scares and worries people. Like I said above, it’s like expecting to fail instead of expecting to succeed. If you had an optimism for the unknown, instead of a fear, your mind would be expecting to succeed. Fear of the Unknown no longer holds me back.

Fear of Rejection was also a big one to overcome. Now I’ve had experiences that allow me to see fear of rejection for what it is. It’s simply a lack of preparation. If you truly prepare yourself with your best effort, there is no room for you to fear rejection.The only way a guy would fear rejection from a woman, is if he doesn’t feel adequately ready to talk to her. The same thing happens when the situation’s the other way around. The only reason I would fear rejection from an NBA tryout would be because I don’t honestly feel ready. Fear of rejection no longer has a hold on me.

Probably the biggest one for me to overcome is the fear of judgment. I realize that this fear comes from a need for other people to approve what I’m doing. Or a need for me to live up to the expectations of others. I see now that this isn’t true. I think for myself, therefore I live by my own expectations. My only expectations are to make the best of what I have, and give my best efforts. I have no fear of being judged when in this mindset.

What are some of the fears you’ve overcome?

Let me know in the comments of this post.