Friday January 22, 2010 Kevin A. Morrow
Photographer: Christian Southworth
It’s been interesting the type of rain we’ve got where I live. What I just said has nothing to do with this post, but I thought I’d let you know
. I’ve learned a tremendous amount about the art of attack. I simply don’t waste time on drama anymore. It’s like my mind creates it to test my patience. Not only does my mind do it, but other peoples minds do it as well. I know it’s really annoying trying to talk to me when drama is on your mind. I know that each of us chooses to see what we choose to see, and I just don’t want any parts of that anymore. It seems like a waste of time to me. I rather spend my time helping someone, learning, helping myself, or having fun. You know, something worthwhile and productive.
However, the drama might also be productive, it provides opportunities to practice what I believe. I will not neglect my share of this world. Meaning there is abundance everywhere, and I do not deny its existence. This includes the “Almighty Dollar,” or whatever else that might be considered wealth. In order for me to do this in a way that’s comfortable for me, I must react to drama in the correct manner.
That’s the secret of all secrets, better known as how you react to situations. Whenever someone feels the need to attack another person, it’s because deep down inside they’re trying to feel better about themselves. This is also known as hater-ism (a hater, haterade, hateration, hate, – jealousy or distain of another persons percieved success.) in the hip hop culture. That’s the only purpose of attacking another person. I’ve done it, I’ve seen family do it, I’ve witnessed girlfriends do it, I’ve witnessed all kinds of people doing it. Sometimes people secretly envy you because they want to do things the way that you do them. Other times it’s because you threaten how they see the world as reality.
Photographer: Francesco Marino
I’ve realized a while ago that it was time to make non-judgmental posts, and step into the world with my goals and realizations. I want to help people. Meaning I want my work to help people and help the world be a better place. At this moment, I’ll do it one blog, conversation, and basketball game at a time. I call it realistic optimism. You may call it something else, and we’ll both be just as correct.
Sometimes knowledge is misunderstood, and too much of it will have you living apart from the world. Now I’ve got this notion that I should be completely honest with myself and others, go figure that. Just be honest, that way you’re being the real you. There’s no need to pretend you’re something that you’re not. Well, unless of course you are living through the expectations of other people. Maybe you should try living through your own expectations. Just a suggestion, it’s not an order, I’m not a drill instructor.
CHANGE OF ENVIRONMENT
This is crucial to me. I’ve felt the need to strongly change my social environment. It may seem that I’ve isolated myself, but the truth is I’ve decided to not put energy into environments that are not productive to me. If I have to appear selfish to those who don’t understand that, so be it. I like supportive people and environments around me, I will not apologize for being selfish in that way. Who would I be apologizing to? Those who don’t support what I see as possible? Yeah, that sounds SUPER SMART. (SUPER SMART – a term used as in to refer to me as what someone knew I was. Super sarcastically of course.) I am a gangster when it comes to situations like that. Meaning I’m going to do what I want to do. I’ve dropped the connections that aren’t supportive to me, and I welcome all the many new ones that are. The only way you would know this, is when you feel it. You can call it intuition or gut. People are attractive and unattractive to you through the way that you think. Think about that. Your friends reflect what you believe. If you want to believe something else, try finding new friends. But first you must set your inner environment of self, to see what you want to see.
Some people around me will hate what I have to say next, and they will even say that I do this as well. This is also criticism, but it’s understood. It actually helps me because I see it for what it is. Which is why I now say that whining, complaining, arguing, drama, name calling, belittling, false expectations, pity parties, woe is me conversations, my life sucks texts, these are all unproductive, and I’m dropping them from my social environment. If this hurts your feelings, and you can’t understand why I’m doing this, than no wonder your being dropped from my social environment.
I wouldn’t want someone to include me in their social environment if I was hurling the energy listed above at them. This isn’t something personal. If it were personal it would be an attack on the character of other people. There’s no need for me to do something like that. I’m not attacking character, this is about energy. This is about internal and external energy that is percieved in reality. This is about what’s experienced as reality. This is about being the person I know I am. This is about being the billionaire that I visioned at the beginning of this blog. No matter how improbable it seems, the billionaire doesn’t just have to mean money however. This is about exercising the best of my character, and the best of my character enforces strength. But just writing about it doesn’t do much. One has to DO it, then what the blog is understood on a broader level.
Photographer: Michal Marcol
This is going to sound even colder if you are taking what I’m saying personal. But understand that this leads into what I’m about to say next. If I’m communicating my feelings and my ideas to you and you consistently tear them down, what’s the use? What’s the point? Maybe that’s constructive criticism, but in most cases it’s not. It’s about feeling better about yourself. If someone has a good idea why would you criticize it? Think about it. Because you would have to feel better about yourself for not coming up with it. That is of course you are not expressing the best of your character. Let me reiterate that this isn’t targeted toward a single person. This is just the best way I can convey what I’m saying in this blog at this moment.
I’m over that. It’s that simple. The space that all that unproductive stuff leaves gets filled with productive things, people, and environments. Which means I see these things now. I choose to see them now. They are within me, I don’t even have to go anywhere, but I can at the same time. Self-defeat makes you weak, if you drain forget my name. We can still be friends, but we won’t have decent conversations until some things are understood by both of us. I could be aware enough to not be drained, but the person will eventually need to become aware enough not to drain. See the correlation here?
I’m by no means exalting myself or putting myself above others. If you see it that way then maybe you should understand your own motivations. Would you hang out with someone who was a constant thief? If you weren’t a thief, would choosing a different social environment be exalting yourself? Think about it. This isn’t personal to anyone, this is about living life.
In that statement awaits the trap. The moment I begin to criticize, I begin to harm all parties involved. Instead I should strengthen myself, and find out what it is I don’t like about myself that’s causing me to criticize. This is a wise suggestion for all those who read this. Fake-ness, whining, pity party, all of that is self-defeat. No matter how you want to rationalize it. It only becomes productive when you SEE IT. Struggle makes people stronger when they SEE IT for what it is. It defeats them when they believe it isn’t a motivator.
This is about being yourself, and not bringing down other people. Self-defeat is also defeating other people. Why? Because you do to others what you do to yourself.
Golden rule, do to others what you would want done to you. So if I was draining you I would want you to explain it to me, similar to this blog, so that I could understand. The only way I know to help people get a better understanding of themselves, is to get a better understanding of myself.
What do I SEE?
Photographer: federico stevanin
I see what I choose to see. I choose to see a lot of things as possible. I know how to make those things possible. Productive environment is one of the avenues to “What I see street.” Like the famous quote that says “If you want to see change in the world, be the change in the world.” Everything you experience starts with what you SEE. I’m not just speaking about physical sight, I’m also talking about awareness and character.
I felt the need to express my truth 100%, and this is it.
I am adding to the defeat of other people if I don’t express the best of my character. A man with no money can still have strong character. The courage in being yourself shows people that they can find courage in being themselves as well.
I could write more, but there are somethings I need to do.
Have a great day!